We are wrapping up 2014 and ’tis the season for busting out the coulda, woulda, shoulda.

I coulda worked out more this year.
I woulda found that man if I lost 10 pounds.
I shoulda stuck to my resolutions.

The end of the year is a time for celebrating, honoring, and dreaming.  It’s not a time for judging, attacking, and shoulding all over your life.  It’s important to end the year with the energy that you want to carry into the new year and I’m guessing that low vibe, self-loathing energy is not what you are seeking in 2015.

Instead of the coulda, woulda, shoulda follow my tips for ending the year on a high and feeling great about the new year.  I have one simple action for each day leading up to the ball dropping and the confetti flying.

December 21:  Read this blog!

December 22:  Commit to healthy choices for the next 10 days.  Maybe it’s more movement, more veggies, one less cookie, more sleep, less stress, more water.  Just pick one or two things and commit.  Set calendar reminders for the next 10 days so that you don’t forget in the hustle and bustle of the holidays.

December 23:  Ask for help.  Would you feel less stressed if someone else took responsibility for wrapping gifts or making dessert?  Just ask.  You will immediately feel lighter.

December 24:  Write out a list of everything you accomplished in 2014.  Nothing is too small to include.  Keep writing until you can’t think of anything else.  And then come up with 5 more things.  This should be a long list.  Read it out loud and smile.  You did good.

December 25:  Merry Christmas, if you celebrate!  At dinner tonight make gratitude your attitude.  Go around the table and ask everyone to share one thing from 2014 that they are grateful for.  Bask in the glow of all this gratitude!

December 26:  Write out your resolutions from last year and rip them to pieces (or thrown them in your fireplace and watch them burn).  Recite “I celebrate what I accomplished and release the rest.”

December 27:  Do something that you love today.  It could be anything – the only requirement is that it brings you joy.  Dinner with your hubs, call your best friend, a glass of wine and your favorite movie, a mani/pedi.  Anything that makes you smile.

December 28:  Plan something in January that you can’t wait to do.  Maybe you’re finally going to try SoulCycle or use that spa gift certificate you got for your anniversary last year.  The two rules: whatever you plan supports your self-care and you are excited about it.

December 29:  Check some things off of your to-do list today.  What are some of the small things that you’ve just been procrastinating?  Don’t let these things weigh you down as you close out the year.  Get your oil changed.  Clean your oven.  Organize your receipts.

December 30:  Clear out the clutter.  It’s time to tackle your closet and donate whatever you didn’t wear in 2014.  Toss all of the almost empty bottles you have in your bathroom.  Open up your “junk” drawer and get rid of the junk.  Make space for all of the amazing things that are going to come your way in 2015.

December 31:  It’s New Year’s Eve and time to focus on how to want to FEEL in 2015.  Resolutions don’t work.  They just don’t.  We write out of list of resolutions and suddenly the things that we actually want to do feel like homework.  And I don’t know about you but as soon as I HAVE to do something, I no longer WANT to do it.  Instead focus on your core desired feelings.  This is a life changing practice that I learned from Danielle LaPorte‘s The Desire Map.  By focusing on how you want to feel you can then create goals that will allow you to feel that way.  I’ll be ringing in the new year with a new desire map.  (And some champagne!)


I’ll be sharing my desire map experience and core desire feelings in the new year and can’t wait to hear from you.  How do you want to FEEL in 2015?